How do you deal with the fact you’re attracted to women but don’t trust them at all?

Odd question, it's like asking how you can want to trust but also be cynical at the same time. I guess there are two answers though: 1. Clearly identify the attraction. Too many people love the idea of women but not what women actually are. That's why some people genuinely marry their waifus; they realize their attraction is to fictional​ perfection rather than reality. 2. Objectification. I like thin girls (extinct species I know) but I usually despise the person attached to it. So when I meet a cute broad I literally treat her like an interactive museum display. Or on the opposite end, I actually correspond with a few confirmed cyberfoids because I like the​ persona they exude online, but I never want to see them irl because they're nearly guaranteed to be hamplanets. In my mind they're like really advanced chatbots.

@veff@poa.st First part is definitely true. The only woman I actually ‘like’ in the world is 90 years old. I can enjoy a conversation with her. I enjoy her company. She checks up on me and acts like a real friend. I haven’t opened up to her too much, but she’s my friend, I’d count her as one. There are good women out there. I also have a good coworker, although not nearly on the same level. The problem is making attraction overlap with “I actually like her.” I could masturbate to a million fake girls, anime or otherwise. I struggle to make “enjoy alone time with” and “would stick it in” meet. I also have no idea how to find those women because I have no faith in apps like Hinge. They seem to work but they’re inherently superficial. So are bars tbh. I want a girl that’s right for *me.* someone who’ll tickle all the funny spots, and align perfectly. It might take exposure to really find that girl; I didn’t find my first one or two until a couple months into highschool. I don’t feel like approaching random foods though. There aren’t even that many that are knock-your-socks-off pretty anymore. There are some but they all live in the city and idk where to find them, and don’t feel like, going looking for them. Partly because I know they’ll all be shitlibs. The painful part is I just need one. I don’t need a million women, just one.

@Griffith@radiofreegreenland.org @veff@poa.st the honest answer is if you meet a woman you think you would actually like, you just gotta open up and take a chance on getting to know her better. you're not gonna really know if someone is right for you otherwise.

@earthling@lab.nyanide.com @veff@poa.st Probably.